Makes Me Wonder

One of the things I get to do when I work at my Care Giving job is to take my Lady for a walk in her wheelchair after supper. Her favorite place to go , though it is new for her everytime is to the Marina in Lakefield.



We sit on the wharf and watch the boats and the activity all around and B. likes to see how many people wave to her.

One of the things that I appreciate about her is her joy in the little things. She lives in the moment,not because she chooses to but because her brain does not allow much else.
The little blue flowers along the path, the same things she sees day after day, yet says to me, 'I've never been down here before', when she is there nearly every day.

Anyway, sometimes in the midst of this swirl of confusion and forgetfullness, I am reminded once again to take a deep breath and notice those little things with her. That's a good thing.

It all sounds so innocent..... well ... the other night B. surprised me .

First of all remember that my Lady has short term memory loss,and considerable dementia. She easily forgets what she ate for her meal by the time I serve dessert, and actually the conversation and questions repeat themselves continually over and over and over and over..at least for the last year I have been there.

The other night I got B.ready for bed so she could watch/listen to the news, a nightly routine.
Her husband went to bed early so when it was time for B. to retire, I said , 'would you like to go and join M. now ?'

'That's a good idea was her reply....but I kind of wanted to see a program that is coming on at 11pm.'
'What program is that B?' I inquired.
It's kind of risque she replies..... RISQUE !!!!!! says I with shock registering on my face ... only a little exagerated.

'What would your mother say if she knew I let her 90 year old daughter watch something like that? That gets a giggle from B. but she persists. I was just curious to see what it was about... something about some LADIES....

No way ! says I once again....

Then B. back peddles and says 'Well I don't even know what risque really means.

UH-HUH says I.

'Try and tell me what you think it means B.'

'Naked or nudity ???'says B.

There you go ! says I . You do not need to see anything like that, besides, I thought being a lady of your years you would already know everything you needed to know about that kind of stuff. Another hilarious giggle from B. as I lotion and powder her feet and help her into bed.

Sometimes her mind gets kind of stuck on things, and other times everything just gets forgotten in seconds. I am amazed at the funny and strange kinds of things that want to stick . Too funny, but I am glad we can laugh and she can giggle through this time of her life . Then she lays her little white head down on her pillow, and counts her blessings.